Dear Expectant Parents
You've got this - because you are an amazing parent and you are a strong person.
It's nice to meet you!
Parent to parent - first, we'd like to tell you that you are already a wonderful parent. Only a parent's selfless heart could consider their child's best interests and needs over their own. Perhaps, it's hard right now to know what is right for you and your child. It may take time, but you will know. And you should know, even if you do choose to place your child for adoption, this baby will always be your child. You will always be their parent. Nothing takes that away. We don't know what you are feeling or what you are going through. We won't pretend that we do. But we do know that hard things get easier with time. So whether you decide to place your baby for adoption or to parent, it is going to be ok. You've got this - because you are an amazing parent and you are a strong person. We trust your decision and you should too. Please make sure that you are taking care of yourself during this time. Be kind to yourself. With much love and respect, Casi and Eric
The original plan was to have a couple of biological kids and then to start to adopt. How does the saying go? God laughs at plans, right?
Our family of three!
Adoption has always been a part of Casi's family plan. Casi's best friend in kindergarten was adopted and his experience and adjustment from kindergarten to high school graduation left a lasting impression. The original plan was to have a couple of biological kids and then to start to adopt. How does the saying go? God laughs at plans, right? We needed some time to heal after Sophia's premature birth. Any plan for a second pregnancy was immediately put on hold. As the years passed and the fear faded, we returned to the idea. Unfortunately, fertility had waned. We were not able to conceive and decided not to pursue any advanced fertility treatments. There was undeniable disappointment, but we were comforted in knowing that adoption was already a part of our family plan. Admittedly, time has gotten away from us a bit. We've had so much fun as a family of three but we are ready to be a family of four!
Whatever else life may throw at us, we have no doubt that the person at our side is there, through thick and thin, and we can handle it.
We met in freshman tennis class and became fast friends. We started dating the next year, which amounted to hanging out in much the same way we had previously, but now with the title of girlfriend and boyfriend! Our next four years together at college were spent much the same way. After completing her degree, Casi moved to another city for medical school. Eric had one more year to complete and then he would begin his engineering career in our current city. The next 4 years were marked by many miles on the road for Eric. Every weekend he would make the drive to spend the weekend with Casi. The life of a med student is not too exciting, so Casi was always surprised Eric continued to come, but was super grateful and happy that he did. In June of 2010, we were married in front of our family and closest friends in a historic building on the Riverwalk in San Antonio. After med school graduation, Casi moved to join Eric. We bought our first home and started our life together after spending so many years apart. A couple years later we welcomed our sweet daughter, Sophia, into the world. Or, more accurately, we should say she catapulted herself into the world after just 24 weeks of pregnancy. We spent a long 109 days in the NICU but thanks to a loving and merciful God and modern medicine she is fantastically healthy and happy. The last 9 years have been a quick blur of fun and happiness. The strength of our relationship comes from the time that we have spent together and that we have truly grown together over that time. We have been through so many happy times - graduations, job promotions, and bringing our daughter home as the cherry on top. But just as importantly, through our 22 years together, we've also been through some terrible times - the death of Casi's father, a catastrophic fire in Eric's family restaurant, being separated for four years by 200 miles, the stress of residency, preterm labor and a baby requiring 3 months of NICU care. Those times have taught us and strengthened us. Whatever else life may throw at us, we have no doubt that the person at our side is there, through thick and thin, and we can handle it. Because we've done it before and we can do it again and it will only make us stronger.
We promise to follow your lead and respect your wishes.
Thank you for spending the time to learn about our family. If you decide that our family is the right fit for you and your child, please have no doubt that your child will be fully and truly loved by us as well as by our large extended family. We hope for an open adoption. Yet, we promise to follow your lead and respect your wishes. We have spent so many years gracefully growing together and we know that our relationship with you and your relationship with your child will grow and change over time. We promise to remain patient and grateful of whatever you are willing to allow. We also want you to know that we are very happy for you should you choose to parent your child and we wish you all the best on the journey of parenting. We wish you peace in your decision, whatever that may be. With much love and respect, Casi, Eric, & Sophia